I got this from the
Powerful Intentions Forum, and I thought I would share Gellan Lee's writing here:
FEEL GOOD About Yourself!
(it’s one ingredient toward reaching your goals)
Abraham often says, “Learn to FEEL BETTER”
By Gillan Lee on October 14, 2010 at 12:52am in Powerful Intentions Main Forum
Step 1 :
List five words to describe yourself. The trick - do not describe any physical features and use any words other than "nice"! Some creative words to choose from could be hardworking, loving, easy going or unique. Just list anything that makes you feel good.
Step 2 :
Praise people for what they can do, not just how they look. Compliment a friend, a family member, a spouse or anyone today on something other than his/her appearance. ( it's one of the way to say and feel thankful about anything.)
Step 3 :
Try to ask an older sister, mom, cousin, aunt or your grandma how she felt about her appearance when she was about your age. What does she know now that she wishes she'd know then? Compare what she said with your past-experiences. ( this is the part where you learn a thing or two about feeling good. Every process has steps that needs to be taken yea?)
Step 4 :
Tell your family and friends about your accomplishments. When you accomplish something you're really proud of - whether it's passing a tough test or finishing a winning soccer season -that'swhen you're at your most beautiful. Give yourself a pat on the back! Call a grandparent or e-mail a favorite aunt to share the news. Celebrate with family and friends. ( when you tell, you're not bragging but sharing the joy. This is the part where all good vibes is produced. Grab it.)
Step 5:
Limit your face time. It's OK to give yourself a once-over in the mirror before you head out in the morning.
Face washed?
Fly zipped?
Hair not standing straight up (unless you like it that way)?
Step 6 :
Don't obsess about your appearance. It's fine to want to see what's changing and to daydream about who you're becoming. But spending too much time in front of the mirror - or peeking at your reflection in every mirror you pass - is not worth it. You've got better things to do!
Step 7 :
. When your friend says,"You look great," don't brush her off with "I think these pants make me goofy." Just say "Thanks," and let the words sink in. ( The art of feeling thankful.)
Step 8 :
Celebrate taking care of yourself. Take time today to pamper your skin with great-smelling soap to lotion. Clean and cut your nails. (Focus on YOU.)
Step 9 :
Give your body respect, and you'll get respect from the rest of the world, too. Even if you wake up feeling lousy - or just lazy - wash your face, comb your hair, brush your teeth, and get dressed in your favorite jeans and t-shirt. ( Vital to feel as if you're on top of the world every morning.)
Step 10 :
List three things you like about your looks. When you're having a bad day, focus on what you like about yourself (e.g. I have pretty hazel eyes with dark eyelashes, a gorgeous smile, shiny hair, etc.). (When you shift your mind from those bad things to good things, instantly you'll be smiling)
Step 11 :
Don't waste your time comparing yourself to others. There's no one out there just like you, who was grown up with your experiences and has your talents. Also remember to listen to your body when you play sports. Don't push yourself past your body's limits, even if you're told to toughen up. Your instincts will tell you when to stop. (Others don't decide where you will be, it is YOU.)
Step 12 :
Make meals something special. Even if you're only having cereal with your siblings, create traditions that will make the moment memorable. Set the table. Take turns sharing funny dreams from the night before. At dinner, dim the lights and have your parents light a candle for the table. Enjoy giving yourself the fuel you need and sharing your ideas and feelings with people eating with you.
Step 13 :
Try to change the subject if your friends start talking about their weight or diet. Show them that there are more interesting things to talk about, such as how their soccer team is doing and how old their little golden retriever pup is this month. ( You should change the vibes surrounding you. Make it positive.)
Step 14 :
Know that it's OK not to feel perky or peppy all the time. Sometimes you just have to live with the bad feelings and just know they'll pass. If you feel seriously sad, be sure to talk to an adult who cares about you. Also, when you're in a bad mood, your body knows it. Think about which part of your body gets out of whack when you're crabby or upset. Do you get a stomach ache when you're nervous about a test? Do you get a headache when you feel anxious? If you recognize your body's signals, you may be able to figure out what's bothering you and make yourself feel better.
Step 15 :
Cheer yourself up when needed. If it's daytime, open up the window and let in some fresh air and sunlight. If it's nighttime, put on some clean pajamas and curl up with a favorite book, movie, or CD. Feeling stressed? Take a warm bath or shower. Imagine the water washing away your worries. Also try to create your own peace rituals. When you're angry or stressed out, take three long, slow, deep breaths. Write in your journal. Turn on some of your favorite music. Find ways to calm your spirit, and return to those practices whenever you feel anxious.
Step 16 :
Start a dream list. Find a pretty notebook and write down places you'd like to visit, experiences you'd like to have, people you'd like to meet, and skills you'd like to learn. A dream list is a great start to creating a life filled with fun, adventure, and interesting experiences. Put a box next to each item on your list so you can check it off when it happens. (Vision Board everyone?)
Step 17 :
List all the things you're good at, whether it's math or being funny. If you feel down about yourself, look at the list you've made, and remember - you rock! (Hehehehe.)
Step 18 :
Wear clothes that make you feel good. You know which shirt makes you feel self-conscious and which pants make you squirm. Talk to your mom about why you don't feel good in those clothes and ask if you can give them to charity. Wear your favorite color. If you feel great in it, your confidence will show! If someone teases you about the clothes you wear, shrug it off and say, "Oh well, at least I like them!" Remember: People aren't looking at you or talking about you nearly as much as you think they are. Also try a new `do. Brush your hair, braid it, twist it, and tie it. Experiment! You can express yourself through your appearance and no one way is right. They're allyou.
Step 19 :
Develop your own style. Experiment with clothing to see what makes you feel the best. Some days you might feel girly and fancy - other days you won't! That's OK. This week, visit a clothing store with a friend and pick out five new outfits in colors and styles you'd never consider wearing. Then have fun trying them on! Don't be surprised if something you thought would look awful actually looks good on you. Have a laugh at the ones you don't like.
Step 20 :
Don't care about what other people think. Have you been hurt by words? Remember this: People who insult others usually do it to make themselves be powerful. Know what that means? They're probably insecure. They are the ones who lack confidence, so try not to bend into the pressure to return their jabs with an insult.
Step 21 :
Learn something new. Read a good article about something going on in the world. You will feel like you are knowledgeable about some current events, and it will give you a sense of self-importance. (Confidence baby.)
Step 22 :
Look for the beauty in others and embrace it. Finding beauty in those around you gives YOU a more beautiful spirit.
Step 23 :
Just go for it, take everything that you hate, love, and ignore about yourself, and just love it all. Difficult as it may be just go for it, second guessing is worse than being let down... get out and find out for yourself. Rejection is the first stage to success reiterated in my own words.
Step 24 :
Believe in yourself. Though it may sound cheesy, it actually does make you more confident. Believe that you can accomplish whatever task is at hand. When you finish, you'll feel good because you knew you could do it. So don't give up and try your best.
